no more rushing; take the time for them

We are all busy. We have created a culture in which we set ours selves parameters of which we need to obey. When we fall short of those parameters we are hard on ourselves. Now incorporate children into this equation and you have what I call a "Hot Mess". I have failed myself over and over again with this dilemma until I finally threw my hands in the air and said I give. To all moms out there . . .  Here is the straight talk for you. No one cares what your kids look like when you leave the house only you do. Also no one cares what you look like either. So when your in a hurry to get somewhere maybe for work or maybe its just to the store down the road just stop hurrying. I have learned that in those moments when you stop hurrying around that right there your can learn so much about your kids and their development. I stopped and learned that my son can put his own shoes on given the time to do so. Also I learned that he can get him self dressed in the morning given the time to do so. As moms out there we need to stop rushing our children so that they can become independent little people and be allowed to feel about them selves.  Otherwise we are going to rush them out of childhood with out all the tools they need to survive on their own.

Adventure Time

so I have a busy life as a stay at home mom. never does my day goes as planed but I have learned that; that is the beauty of being a stay at home mom. really stop and enjoy your children remember these times of crazy because when they grow up it will not happen again. I am a creature of reflection. I like to think back to when..... all the time. Now that we have our second child I am realizing how much I did not stop and just enjoy the moment, it was all about a plan and structured day. There was no real fun to be had no adventure. so my message to day to moms out there. STOP and just let the day happen let the day slip away from you and your littles because at the end of the day when your kids are grown up ... those are the days that they will remember the most because you were relaxed and you had fun on the adventure with them and they got to be apart of making the adventure!!!

Happy new year

Happy new year everyone ! 2016 we have a lot going on I have been a stay at home mom for three months so far and I have to say I am really enjoying it. I am going back to work in February so I am making the best of this last month. I have my thoughts on how this will look but since moving and taking my son out of daycare I have not found a daycare close to home yet.... Eek so I have been resurching how to get daycare for both boys on multiple wait list. So we will see what happens!