no more rushing; take the time for them

We are all busy. We have created a culture in which we set ours selves parameters of which we need to obey. When we fall short of those parameters we are hard on ourselves. Now incorporate children into this equation and you have what I call a "Hot Mess". I have failed myself over and over again with this dilemma until I finally threw my hands in the air and said I give. To all moms out there . . .  Here is the straight talk for you. No one cares what your kids look like when you leave the house only you do. Also no one cares what you look like either. So when your in a hurry to get somewhere maybe for work or maybe its just to the store down the road just stop hurrying. I have learned that in those moments when you stop hurrying around that right there your can learn so much about your kids and their development. I stopped and learned that my son can put his own shoes on given the time to do so. Also I learned that he can get him self dressed in the morning given the time to do so. As moms out there we need to stop rushing our children so that they can become independent little people and be allowed to feel about them selves.  Otherwise we are going to rush them out of childhood with out all the tools they need to survive on their own.

Adventure Time

so I have a busy life as a stay at home mom. never does my day goes as planed but I have learned that; that is the beauty of being a stay at home mom. really stop and enjoy your children remember these times of crazy because when they grow up it will not happen again. I am a creature of reflection. I like to think back to when..... all the time. Now that we have our second child I am realizing how much I did not stop and just enjoy the moment, it was all about a plan and structured day. There was no real fun to be had no adventure. so my message to day to moms out there. STOP and just let the day happen let the day slip away from you and your littles because at the end of the day when your kids are grown up ... those are the days that they will remember the most because you were relaxed and you had fun on the adventure with them and they got to be apart of making the adventure!!!

Happy new year

Happy new year everyone ! 2016 we have a lot going on I have been a stay at home mom for three months so far and I have to say I am really enjoying it. I am going back to work in February so I am making the best of this last month. I have my thoughts on how this will look but since moving and taking my son out of daycare I have not found a daycare close to home yet.... Eek so I have been resurching how to get daycare for both boys on multiple wait list. So we will see what happens!

the intapendent learner

being a stay at home mom right now is hard work for me. why ??? I love my children don't get me wrong but I have a high expectation of how my home should look as well as how a family should look and behave. with this being said I understand that there are times that the puzzle pieces are not going to fit right and I am ok with that. It doesn't mean that we live in a mess of a home and eat junk food and act like crazies in public. Did I mention that I have a strong willed child ??? he is very independent and wants to learn things for himself. which is hard for me as a mother to let happen as I do not want to see him get hurt. any other mothers out there feel the same way?? so I have been practicing the art of creating a safe learning environment and letting him run free. I have learned by trial and error that we stay home on bad days and on the good days we get to it while the getting is good. some may say that I am allowing my toddler to run my days in a sort I am, but I feel that arguing is just not going to get anywhere with a toddler at this age. if we have a break down we simply move on to the car and head home. nothing is more important that setting the boundaries that we do not act up in stores.

adult conversation vs toddler conversation

I have been off work for almost 2 months and I have started to feel the lack of adult conversation. I deal with a lot of poopy diapers and a lot of crying because our banana broke in half. (yeah the banana seriously was broken and being mommy I needed to have the special powers to fix said banana and I lack those powers). When I finally get out to have my adult time I am now that friend that only talks about their kids poop colors. Its not all bad don't get me wrong, my friends are very understanding, other wise they wouldn't be my friends lol. I also now have a bad habit of  babbling on about a story and there is no plot anymore because I have spoken too many details for them to keep up.  I also latch on to any of their gossip its addicting like a soap sitcom .... should I be concerned about the level of my insanity lol I know it will get better and I do cherish my time with my children, creating stories at bed time waking up to breakfast together and cooking and playing. I just need a reminder that I am an adult at times. have a great night guys! 

omg i have two kids now

well we did it ! we are now parents of two beautiful children that make up our wonderful lives!  we are very happy I must tell you there are times when you just want to pull your hair out or walk away find a pillow and scream into it? what were we thinking??? no its not that bad but there are moments. this is where you can read about my crazy life, motherhood and other fun things

boobs.....

ok so I am not going to pretend that I know everything about the female body but I thought have been down this path once before that I would know what to except. WRONG ok so apparently last time with my first son I really never got my milk it was kind of there kind of not. Why didn't anyone tell you that when your milk lets down it can be painful also that your going to have porno boobs for about a month, that there is a point when your boobs look like watermelons. you would think that someone might be excited to have these bad boys but lets be real even my husband was afraid of them, and if he even thought to touch them (which he knew better) I think I would have left him. why on gods green earth did it have to hurt so bad. also getting mastitis on top of producing enough milk for three babies was not fun. there was leaking and spraying. A plumber couldn't have fixed these pipes.
also why on earth do people encourage you to have two kids close together. How do you explain to your toddler that your feeding baby brother with your boobs and that you then are pumping milk for baby brother. so as it is natural I just do it very openly, few days later I caught my toddler (male) trying to pump milk for baby. cute yes adorable he wanted to help, unfortunately that will probably cost me later in life for therapy. The boy had the pump on the right spots, power on, and going to town making milk for his brother, bless his big brother heart!