no more rushing; take the time for them

We are all busy. We have created a culture in which we set ours selves parameters of which we need to obey. When we fall short of those parameters we are hard on ourselves. Now incorporate children into this equation and you have what I call a "Hot Mess". I have failed myself over and over again with this dilemma until I finally threw my hands in the air and said I give. To all moms out there . . .  Here is the straight talk for you. No one cares what your kids look like when you leave the house only you do. Also no one cares what you look like either. So when your in a hurry to get somewhere maybe for work or maybe its just to the store down the road just stop hurrying. I have learned that in those moments when you stop hurrying around that right there your can learn so much about your kids and their development. I stopped and learned that my son can put his own shoes on given the time to do so. Also I learned that he can get him self dressed in the morning given the time to do so. As moms out there we need to stop rushing our children so that they can become independent little people and be allowed to feel about them selves.  Otherwise we are going to rush them out of childhood with out all the tools they need to survive on their own.